Zen and the Art of Wedding Planning

or: Top 5 Tips for Getting Hitched without becoming Unhinged.

We all know how stressful this wedding thang gets from time to time, and as the big day approaches, it seems to bring with it mounting tension and apprehension – will it all go as planned? Here are our top tips for making the commitment without getting yourself committed.

1. Delegate.

top tips iconModern woman is used to being in the eye of the storm. A lot of ladies these days to work full time and still find time to devote to partners, friends, children, community groups, second jobs and even blogs, and still find time to keep themselves and their homes in a presentable manner. Throw in planning a wedding and even the most established multitasker can feel a bit overwhelmed. The good news is, you don’t have to. Delegate. Friends and family will be more than happy to be able to help you out with the preparations, and if you feel you still aren’t going to be able to pull it out of the bag, why not consider hiring a wedding planner? The benefits are not limited to taking the pressure off – many will negotiate deals with suppliers for you and end up effectively paying for themselves.

2. Maintain Perspective.

A recent thread on Weddings Online saw brides who have already tied the knot share what changes they would make. Most said they’d only change what they spent their money on. Overspending on cars, cakes, flowers, wedding stationary, chair covers and favours factor big in the debate. There is little mention of under-spending. It’s one day in your life. Don’t get into unmanageable debt because of it.

3. Connect with your wedding party.

The run-up to a wedding is a special time in both families and while the attention is mainly focused on yourself and your intended, it’s important to make sure that everyone feels involved. If they have a job to do in the lead-up to or on the big day, talk to them about it. It will reassure you that they understand what’s involved and they will be pleased you have shown interest in their role even though you’ve a massive role to play yourself.

4. Don’t be afraid to cry. Or laugh.

Weddings are emotional times. We are think about those who couldn’t share the day in person, we think about how the face of the family is changing. It’s natural that at times you will feel teary, stressed or melancholic so don’t fight it. If you deal with the emotions as you encounter them, there’s less chance of them building up and overcoming you. Of course, this goes for laughing too. Go with the flow.

5. Go easy on yourself and your partner.

When your florist’s just rang to say the shipment of oriental lilies hasn’t arrived and you’ve chipped your two-week manicure it’s hard to keep your cool. But just remember you’re getting married so you can have a marriage, not just a wedding so be gentle with each other in the pressure cooker of the happiest day of your lives.

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