Top Tips: Learning from Brides who’ve Been There

top tips iconThis post is for the bride at the end of her tether. Which favours to choose? Which flowers? What design for the place cards?

Stall the ball.

I recently came across a great thread on Weddings Online where brides who have already tied the knot share what changes they would make. I have made a promise to myself to refer to it whenever I get myself into a panic.

It’s probably no surprise that most brides would only change what they spent their money on (so the groom stays, phew!). Overspending on cars, cakes, flowers, wedding stationary, chair covers and favours factor big in the debate. There is little mention of under-spending.

Some other pearls of wisdom:

  • Have some time alone with your intended on the big day.
  • Be assertive with your photographer. If you don’t want to spend half the day driving around from place to place taking photographs, say so. Professional photographers will have the courtesy to uphold your wishes but they’re photographers not mind readers so tell them.
  • Spend money on looking and feeling good like a band who make you want to dance, hairdresser and make-up artist, etc.
  • It’s your wedding day, do it your way.

Enjoy the process, and don’t sweat the little things.

Repeat daily.

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  1. NMcK

    I agree!! Make the most of your big day, don’t get too caught up in all the silly detail! It’ll all fall into place in the end no matter what…

    And don’t forget that life goes on both before and after the big day ;) Take it from me! (Very happily married for over 2 years and we had such an amazing wedding day – and lead up to it!)

    • You’re right Niamho – feel free to remind me of this in the run-up to our big day… I can totally vouch for you having an amazing day for yours, it was really unforgettable (and not just because I spilled coffee down my dress in front of everyone you know :) )

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