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Planning Addiction: Diagnosis and Treatment

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Move over Bridezilla, there’s a new battle-axe in town. The idea that someone could become addicted to planning their wedding may seem bizarre, but it’s a real issue among brides-to-be, and like waists over 32”, it’s spreading.

If you let a planning addiction get in on you, you could end up burnt out, stressed out and with all the wedding-life balance of a rented dining chair. Here’s how to spot the symptoms and get your life back:

The Signs

  1. You spend 90% of your time looking at a screen – and it’s wedding related. Your laptop, your work PC, your phone. Although most of your wedding research will undoubtledly take place at home, you may find yourself sneaking online during work to peruse bridesmaid dress websites, and if you have a smartphone, it means the Interenet (and wedding planning) is in your pocket at all times.
  2. You worry constantly about ivory versus cream – Yes, there is a big difference, yes it will be nice to have everything matching, but no it’s not something that should be keeping you awake at night.
  3. You can’t think of a single job for hubs-t0-be – The inability to delegate (read: being a control freak) means you end up doing all the hard work. This is neither wise nor necessary. When you get engaged, lots of people will offer their help in the run-up t0 the wedding. Graciously accept their offers. And throw hubs-to-be a bone too. You can always check his work later!

Remedy

  1. Make a list – undertake to cross off no more than a certain number of things per day. Getting your tasks down on paper is the first step in dealing with them, so once you’ve made a list, you know what’s coming and you feel more like it’s all in hand.
  2. Take a deep breath. Do this regularly.
  3. Stick with your choices – once you’ve chosen your colour palette and the dresses are ordered, there is no going back. Be happy with what you have chosen and use it as a foundation to build on. Likewise your photographer, venue, band. There was a reason you picked them and they will all be great. Doing a u-turn is not only costly but stressful.
  4. Take some down time. Read a (non-wedding-related) book, go for a walk, meet friends. Remember that you need to dedicate some time to yourself. Once the wedding is over, you won’t have a wedding to plan, but you will still have all these things so don’t neglect them in the meantime.

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  1. Great post Lisa – some very sound advice given! I love the phrase “wedding-life balance” :)

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